The Killer Shadow: Don’t Let it Defeat You

I grew up in a family in which “your business” was never to be spoken outside the home.  Being a writer with a mission to help others, you come to a point in your life when you began to weigh what is worth sharing and what isn’t.  What do you believe you’ve been called to do and what will it cost?  What matters in the … Continue reading The Killer Shadow: Don’t Let it Defeat You

Slaying Your Procrastination Dragon

Happy New Year! So this is the time of year for ‘new beginnings’ as we make resolutions—only to break them within weeks –if we even do them at all.  As for me, I made a ‘bucket list’ about 4 years ago and I’ve accomplished one item on it.   I also have a massive list of objectives that I began working on back in September/October that … Continue reading Slaying Your Procrastination Dragon

Quiet Your “Negative Alternative” Voice

I recently had an “incident” in my kitchen that brought back an interesting memory. About 15 years ago I was making a wooden picture frame one evening. I was using a hunting knife to carve in the grooves that hold the glass in place. My then husband and my son were watching intently and my husband said “Babe, be careful that knife is really sharp.” … Continue reading Quiet Your “Negative Alternative” Voice

The Breakup Series Week Three: The Recovery

Step 3: Forgive and Rebuild Your Life Acceptance Bolder Sisters, during week 1 of the Breakup Series, we (using one of my breakups as a guide) looked at how important it is to allow yourself to feel the pain so you can heal from it. We also saw in week 2 why we should not allow denial to blind our healing—best done by staying away … Continue reading The Breakup Series Week Three: The Recovery

The Breakup Series Week Two: The Denial

Step 2: Stay Away From Your Ex Greetings, Bolder Sisters. Last week I discussed the first post breakup–being honest about your emotions. Shock, pain, and anger are the first stages of any form of grief but we often stay so angry that we don’t allow ourselves to deal with the pain because it hurts too much. This week I want to talk about Denial and … Continue reading The Breakup Series Week Two: The Denial

The Breakup Series Week One: The Breakup

Step 1: Be Honest About Your Emotions There are two dreaded words that you never want to hear from (or say to) your significant other—“it’s over.” Afterwards, you have a good cry (or two or three), pick up the phone and call anyone who’ll listen and try to make sense of it all. Neil Sadaka said it best in his song “Breaking Up is Hard … Continue reading The Breakup Series Week One: The Breakup