One of my biggest challenges in my journey has been comparison. I would often wonder why I couldn’t be as confident and achieve many of the successes I observed from those all around me. They seemed smarter, more motivated, and more accomplished than me. What I found was that the time I wasted watching others could have been used more productively to pursue the dreams I had for myself.
As I’m beginning to accept all of me, even the parts I’m not as fond of, I’m learning what makes me me and why this comparison thing I had been doing has to stop.
Just last month I found myself comparing. There was an honor I had hoped to receive that I didn’t. And as I received the news I began to question, doubt myself, and look at all of the accomplishments of the person who did win. I was in a bit of a funk for a hot second until I realized I had to continue to move forward and put the focus back on myself and what it is I’m supposed to do with this life. I had to not only be honest but also grateful.
The truth is sometimes I won’t win and I have to appreciate the lessons that come from not winning. I can’t stop pursuing my passions and I have to know that what’s for me is for me. My journey is mine. The moment I stop being concerned about others is the moment I start to show up for myself. There is only one me and I am now starting to realize my purpose.
God gifted me with something that is unique and specifically designed for me to deliver. My gifts are delayed whenever my focus is on others.
Instead of comparing, I will celebrate the successes of others and remember my wins are coming too.
Bolder sisters if you find yourself doing this, remember you have to do you. You were uniquely created for a purpose. And your purpose is unlike anyone else’s.
“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” Dr. Seuss,