I recently had a powerful conversation with a Bolder Sister exec at IBM. Although my interview with her was for another publication, I couldn’t help but borrow a few nuggets of wisdom she shared with me. She mentioned how she saw a need and filled it with Meetups and hands on workshops for the technology-challenged, during her 27-year career. This powerhouse didn’t wait for anyone to tell her or invite her to do it, she took charge and made what needed to happen actually happen. She created those programs and delivered on those ideas.
After our conversation, I had to really to think about where in my life was I waiting on someone to tell me what to do, to give me permission. It was definitely my career. I’ve been waiting on guidance, direction and sometimes for someone to just hand me something. I guess I thought because I was nice enough or even fun to work with. But that doesn’t equate hard worker, performer or leader. My supervisors would have to see what I brought to the table. Unfortunately too many times, I was waiting on them to tell me what I should be bringing to the table. That’s why I always found myself stuck, in the same positions for multiple years.
I took that lesson from the IBM exec and said to myself I’m going to see a need and fill it, without being told first.
I did just that. First, I volunteered to help with an event for the organization I work for. Again, this was something, in the past, I would wait to receive an invitation. Next, I presented an idea to promote the event, again you all know my past challenges with speaking up. Finally, after thinking should I or shouldn’t I, I created a social media image to help promote the idea I initiated. Throughout that process I kept wondering should I wait for them to ask me to do these things, or since I see the need, should I just act? And taking action is exactly what I did. I can’t tell you how empowering that was for me. Being a take action kind of a girl is new for me, but damn it feels good!
I’m not sure about you, but I am so tired of waiting for someone else to create opportunities for me. It’s my turn, it’s your turn. Where is there a need YOU can fill? Where are you waiting on someone else to tell you what to do?
As always, I want to hear from you. Bolder Sisters, what exactly are you waiting for to make your dreams come alive?