Those of us who were use to living in the shadows sometimes are excited by our newfound confidence. We look for opportunities to express ourselves, especially since we are kind of just finding our true voice. We are realizing how much we matter and regaining our power. With that also comes a few decisions. People are no longer going to discount or walk all over us. Also, we are overcoming the fear that comes along with asking for what we really want. Although, the journey to courage is an amazing one, we must be mindful of the impact it has on others.
Unfortunately, this week my boldness was delivered in a way I’m not as proud of. In the moment it felt right, but when I revisit that memory it now feels a little funky. This week I snapped on a taxi cab driver who was rude to me. I felt justified because I asked him a question and he responded with little patience and tons of annoyance. The former shy girl I used to be in the past would’ve ignored it and kept it moving. But today, this bolder sister in me is showing up as no-nonsense and determined to be honest about what I want and how I feel. So I angrily stepped outside of my body yelled and told that cab driver he had absolutely no right to be rude to me and it was unacceptable! Now, I’m not disappointed in my need to feel respected, but I’m bothered by my delivery.
I should never have allowed him to get me so upset that I had to raise my voice. I could’ve calmly asked him to consider his tone and remind him I was a customer and there is a professional way to answer questions asked of customers. If I had that moment to do over, I’d still be bold of course, but in a positive way.
While I’m loving my ability to speak up for myself, it is a must that I’m conscious in the moment and staying true to the beautiful person God created.
The lesson this week: Boldness does not equal rudeness.
Bolder Sisters, I would love to hear your story. Have you ever had one of those moments your boldness may have gotten you in trouble?
2 thoughts on “Boldness Is Not Rudeness: My Lesson This Week”
Great article! I know a lot of people who could benefit from reading this! ‘Its not what you say, it’s HOW you say it!’
Thanks Yo! Absolutely.