I’m back from vacation and ready to pour into you something I’ve recently discovered.
In case you didn’t know, it is okay and necessary to talk to and talk through your barriers. Fear, procrastination, self-doubt, and insecurities will continue to show up in your life if you don’t take control over them now.
For that reason, I want to give you a challenge this week. Sometimes the reasons we can’t move forward is because we’re continuing to hold on to those things that aren’t serving us. In fact they discourage and hinder us instead. So, here’s one thing you can do.
Write a letter to your barriers and fears. I mean a real letter from your heart. It can include how you feel, what you’ve lost and why you have to move on. Writing this letter will hopefully help you recognize how much your barriers have gotten in the way. Once you’re fed up enough, you’re definitely going to do something different.
If you need a little guidance, here’s my letter:
It is time the dynamics of our relationship changed.
In the past you have been in charge. You have controlled my actions and silenced my voice. As a result I missed out on certain opportunities and my career didn’t blossom as it should have in the past. Our relationship was toxic. I do recognize you weren’t always out to hurt me, in many of those situations, you were likely trying to keep me safe and comfortable. I believe that. But even with that, you haven’t been any good for me, and the unhealthiness within our relationship has to end.
I’m actually in a new relationship and it feels amazing. My new love is Confidence and self-love. Fear, I know you’ll understand why I had to move on. I want things out of this life that I’m not able to achieve with you holding me back. See, I want to be a best-selling author, highly sought after life coach and talk show host and none of those will happen with you sticking around.
It’s been a hell of a ride, but this is where I get off.
Bolder Sisters, I would love for you to do the same. You can share your thoughts after writing the letter in the comment section below, or feel free to share your entire letter. I would love to help you through your challenges in any way I can. This can be your start.
3 thoughts on “Dear Fear…”
Wow, you gave ‘fear’ life in your letter. In doing so it seems that made it easier to speak from the heart. I have no doubt that you reach all of your goals. I already see that fear has taken a backseat in your life..you rolling with confidence!
Thank you my darling! And it’s starting to feel really good.
For the longest time, I’ve allowed you to run my life. You taught me that I didn’t have a voice, that I was worthless and unworthy, and that no one cared about me. You stole my good years and left me with paralyzing fear and self-doubts.
Long before I met you, I knew who I was. I was a strong, independent, dynamic, outspoken, go-getting woman. My plans were many, my goals bountiful, and my future progressive. There was nothing you could tell me because I stared you in the face and keep moving. I saw right through you.
Then, there you were- standing in my face and hovering over my spirit. I noticed you. I took you home and fed you whatever you craved- my hopes, dreams, mind, and body. I allowed you to have carte blanche at the head of my table. You, Fear, were in complete control.
Today, I’m in recovery. I will no longer allow you to syphon the life out of my peace, joy, or future. Today, I’m slowly discovering that I DO have a voice and there is nothing you can do to quiet me. You are a greedy beast, I’ve discovered, and I will fight you tooth and nail as I reclaim all you’ve taken from me. Funny, I was afraid to post this but guess what? You lose!