Women, Lets Love One Another

Friends girlsWomen are soft, strong, nurturing, and fierce.  We have a threshold for pain that a man cannot possibly comprehend.  We are vessels of life and givers of unconditional love.  We are totally amazing! Why is it, then, that we have such a hard time loving each other?

As Easter approached and we prepared the traditional dinners and purchased those killer outfits (and hats), let us always be reminded to extend love toward our fellow sisters.  Jesus admonishes us in John 15:12 “This is my commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you.”  Sadly, we seem to struggle at times with respecting and uplifting each other.

I’m sure that every woman reading this has experienced (or done) one or more of the following:

  • Eye rolls
  • Head-to-toe stares
  • Ignoring a greeting
  • Disliked by another woman for no known reason
  • Snide remarks or laughs with a companion about you(or her)
  • Assuming another woman is “stuck up” due to her appearance

I truly believe the root of this sort of behavior is either insecurity, lack of confidence in self, or jealousy.  It is a behavior that leaves us stuck and unable to grow as individuals and as a sisterhood.  Having respect for self should overflow to that sister who greeted you warmly or gave you a sincere compliment. We have the capacity to love and support each other. It is a love that we readily extend to our fellow men but sometimes lack the capacity to overflow the same toward women. Sadly, tearing each other down is easier and seems to give us an imagined sense of power (or a feeling of being “better than”) over that woman.

Blessings can be missed as well so we must be careful because what seems pristine in someone else’s life could very well be hell on earth for them.  That woman may need a shoulder to cry on or some other support. They may need… you! A smile or a kind word comes back to you ten-fold.

For those of you who have taken Tiya Sumter’s Bolder Sister Pledge, please take note of “Encourage Other Women” because in order for us to expect and receive God’s best for our lives, we have to extend that to each other. Since we are imperfect beings, we must continue to help one another release bad habits and behaviors.  We must examine ourselves as well and determine why that head-to-toe stare was necessary.

Let’s practice loving and supporting one another.  That sister you dislike may very well be your next pathway to whatever God has in store for you. As we take a journey of becoming bolder and more fierce, let’s remember to uplift one another!

IMG_3940 Kim Woods earned a Bachelor of Science degree in Computer Information Systems at DeVry University. She developed a love for writing poetry and short stories as a child. Kim is socially conscience and her desire to use her life experiences to help others is what drives her to seek opportunities to share her story. She decided to write freelance for the Bolder Sister because it is her desire that women evolve and thrive in their own authentic truth.
Kim resides in Chicago, Illinois and has one son, Donald. In addition to writing, she spends free time creating unique wall art, decorating, and teaching herself how to sculpture. She also has a blog Who Will Speak.

Bolder Sisters, how did you overcome negativity from other women?